[T]he process of… changing feels good. …The change process we have discovered is natural to the body, and it feels that way in the body… The experience of something emerging from there feels like a relief and a coming alive. E. Gendlin, Focusing
Different illnesses are the result of how our body reacts to daily discomfort. There was a time when my whole body is screaming in pain, all my joints, muscles, tendons, viscera… everything hurts like crazy! There is not a single area that does not scream; The “fibromyalgia” has reached such a level that even when I got up I have to stand on the wall because my knees do not support me due to much pain and weakness… Thanks to a personal process of growth I have been able to change beliefs and to drop a negative environment. Those days now are part of the past; just a mere memory.
It has always always been easy for me to feel in my body what happens in my mind, both the good and the bad. The bad expresses itself in the form of spasms, headaches, lumbago, digestive problems, etc…; and the good in a greater breathing capacity, expansion, relaxation, and well-being … (D. Saphiro, 2002).
Body, mind and emotions: an ecosystem
Today’s research unanimously accepts the close relationship between body, mind and emotions. The messages of our emotional world are embedded in the body, we somatize what we feel (Jung 1935, W. Reich 1949, Baker 1967, Lowen 1974). In fact, numerous articles existing relationship between stressful situations and their relationship with negative psychological states, and their consequent influence on the immunological and proprioceptive response (Dr. Levine 1997, 2010).
The word psycho-somatic refers to the fact that the psyche -this is, the mind- affects the soma, the body; that is to say, the mental tension influences the state of the bodily tissues, the muscles, the organs, the skin, of the face tissue, generating pain, inflammation, injuries, diseases, etc.
Saying that the source of an illness is psychosomatic illnesses does NOT mean the pain our bodies experience is not real. Life experiences have the potential to generate such tensions that, over time, they end up causing physical pain or organic lesions: stomach ulcers, acidity, headaches, lumbago, intestinal alterations, skin alterations, fibromyalgia … (Tobón, Vinaccia and Sandín 2004, Dra.Maiteikova 2011).
All those illness must be properly diagnosed and treated, but it is also very important to have a psychological intervention, so the stress that is at the root, does not continue to affect or harm the body.
How does this happen? Why does tension go to the body?
During early childhood, way before we can express with words what’s going on, we use our bodies to express pain, anger, anguish as well as surprise, joy, fear. Parents read those emotions and they can translate them into words. Somatization is our first form of communication with our environment.
At that early stage of our lives we could not elaborate on our emotions. Instead they were transferred to our bodies in the form of crying, altered breathing and heart rate, restlessness, etc. When we learn to master language, it helps us to set limits to the anguish and it helps us to build our psyche –mind- enriching our basic emotional repertoire.
How can we stop somatizing?
Being flexible in the face of changes and unforeseen events implies a certain level of creativity, adaptation and acceptance. Being aware that we cannot control everything allows us to overcome and face with greater strength and integrity the setbacks of life without experiencing that internal struggle that ends in physical pain and discomfort.
Whatever we cannot handle will manifest through the body. Therefore it is necessary to put into words all those emotions that we are feeling and all those experiences that we are living.
Listening to our body is fundamental in order to understand how the situations we live affect us, what we feel and how to re-frame ourselves in front of them.
In the ’60s, psychoanalyst and Dr. in Psychology and Philosophy from the University of Chicago, Eugene Gendlin, a student of prof. Carl Rogers, researched what made a therapy successful and found those patients who obtained significant changes in therapy were those who could reflect through words what they felt psychically.
Dr. Gendlin called that internal feeling “a felt sense” this is, the unclear, pre-verbal sense of “something” —the inner knowledge or awareness that has not been consciously thought or verbalized — as that “something” is experienced in the body. By paying attention to it allows us to clarify what happens to us in face of a fact, event or possibility.
This technique, called Focusing, is effective to reduce stress, taking decisions, or even as a way to achieve healthy behavioral changes, feeling what you are able to assume at all times, which will allow us a greater degree of commitment to us same.
More to read
SAPHIRO, DEB. Your Body Speaks Your Mind: Decoding the Emotional, Psychological, and Spiritual Messages That Underlie Illness. Sounds True Publishers, 2006.
GENDLING, EUGENE. Focusing. Bantam Books; 2nd (revised) edition
MATVEIKOVA, IRINA. Digestive Intelligence: A Holistic View of Your Second Brain. Findhorn Press , 2014.